Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Expectations !!!




"Our limitations and success will be based, on our own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon"

What are your expectations from the future? Are you excited and thrilled about it or looking at it with apprehension and fear?For most people the future holds too many uncertainties and the fear of what might happens tends to overshadow the ray of light that represents the life they ultimately desire.We all live with an unconscious expectation of ourselves and our own lives. This expectation not only determines what we have in our lives but it also represents what we are willing to settle for. They are a very powerful emotion and the one that very few people ever learn to fully cultivate.
Each and everyone out here expects something or the other either from friends to help them when in need; family to support them no matter what; colleagues to be just in their work; job to give a high pay package; teachers to be fair while evaluating; govt to bring out a healthy budget for common man so on and so forth. This list is endless.

Expectations are strange things and something which is inherent in every relation. Initially we are flexible and ready to accept the person as it is. But as the relationship strengthens,so does the level of expectation. We start hoping a lot from the other person. It is such hopes, which when not met sometimes hampers the very basic foundation of a relation.

In friendship too we expect a lot from each other. Small small things begin to bother when done differently.As we move further in life we begin to meet new people, but this doesn't mean that the importance of the earlier ones are lost. The new people cannot replace the existence of the others. They are merely an extension of our database. But because we have expectations it keeps on nagging at us, in some small subconscious part of our mind. Sometimes it becomes so difficult that you really don't get to know whether to let go of them altogether or just hope they come true.

Though having expectations are nice as it helps us to come out of our existing circumstances to more desired ones, but as we say too much of everything is bad, the same holds true in this regard too. Each and every relation requires space and room for breathing. We should not bind them in our chains of expectations as they will rust and get tarnished to such a point that it will become irreparable.

2 comments:

  1. Expectations are a part n parcel of every relation in the world...f one says thy dnt hv an expectatn it only means thy gave up...so i strongly feel tht its very natural n healthy to hv expectations bt only in a relatn (b in frnshp, family, future etc)thts worth it or els its smthn lik beating around d bush n nt gettn newhr..
    bt ofcouse as u rightly pointed out, an overdose of anythn is harmful...n ths is no dfrnt... :)

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  2. Nice post Smriti.....!!!

    U rightly said that it is the expectations that determines what we have in our lives and what we settle for in future. May b its an expectation from a relationship our any other thing. The point is that it is the "expectation of an outcome" that makes us happy or unhappy.

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