The other day i was chatting online with a friend of mine and she sent me a link of her "blog" and asked me to read it. The first thought to enter my mind was "Oh God! how vella can one be", so i chose to ignore. But after a lot of pestering i somehow manged to read the blog. To my amazement i found her blog very interesting and i was eagerly waiting for the sequel. This unusual behavior of mine made me realize that blogging is not what we do when we are free. In fact its a medium of expressing yourself without any inhibitions. It requires a lot of time and effort and lot of thought goes into the process. So, after lot of contemplation and thinking , here i am with my first blog, which now makes me a part of this growing madness of blogging. Well, since i have entered this ocean, let me take the plunge and write some sense in this otherwise senseless blog.
The very same day when i got introduced to the world of blogging, i also got acquainted with another side of our Indian society. We claim to be the next super power, our economy is booming, infrastructure increasing, education level rising, then why still do we have an orthodox mindset when it comes to girl - boy friendship. When a country develops, its not just development of infrastructure or economy that takes place, the mind set of people too have to evolve. If we continue with age old notions, then our growth will be hampered and prosperity of the country will be slowed or may even be stopped. On one hand we claim to be modern and on the other we still question the authenticity of girl and boy being "just friends". When 2 people are from same gender and are friends then its OK, but if people from opposite gender come close and share the same friendship then we see raised eyebrows and question - filled eyes. We again come down to the very same old question which i believe is being asked from generations - " Kya ek ladka aur ladki dost ban sakte hain?". In my opinion girls and boys can be friends, in fact they can be best of friends. The level of understanding that they share is huge, fights are less( believe me much less! phew!) and the amount of care don't even ask, its not even comparable. Till the time a girl and a boy know the limits of their relation, their friendship should be acceptable and not questioned along the imaginary threads which binds our society.
With this thought i choose to leave and would love to hear your views about these double standards which some of our members of the society possess.
The very same day when i got introduced to the world of blogging, i also got acquainted with another side of our Indian society. We claim to be the next super power, our economy is booming, infrastructure increasing, education level rising, then why still do we have an orthodox mindset when it comes to girl - boy friendship. When a country develops, its not just development of infrastructure or economy that takes place, the mind set of people too have to evolve. If we continue with age old notions, then our growth will be hampered and prosperity of the country will be slowed or may even be stopped. On one hand we claim to be modern and on the other we still question the authenticity of girl and boy being "just friends". When 2 people are from same gender and are friends then its OK, but if people from opposite gender come close and share the same friendship then we see raised eyebrows and question - filled eyes. We again come down to the very same old question which i believe is being asked from generations - " Kya ek ladka aur ladki dost ban sakte hain?". In my opinion girls and boys can be friends, in fact they can be best of friends. The level of understanding that they share is huge, fights are less( believe me much less! phew!) and the amount of care don't even ask, its not even comparable. Till the time a girl and a boy know the limits of their relation, their friendship should be acceptable and not questioned along the imaginary threads which binds our society.
With this thought i choose to leave and would love to hear your views about these double standards which some of our members of the society possess.
Hey gr88 job Smriti... Welcome to the world of blogging n gud to see the first post on friendship.. All the ICFAIans are proud of u.. I was introduced to the world of blogging just 3 days b4 u... I can say i m just 3 days older to u.. U started a nice initiative of Expressons n Opinions.. I m waiting for the sequel..Dont forget to chk my blog rajasatish.blogspot.com.. Sayonara..
ReplyDeleteSo u accpet that i influenced u...cool...:D ...nwz niiiice work...keep posting and keep expressing...
ReplyDeleteGreat way of expressing and seeking opinions... Rid your mind of fluttered feeling... Express freely and germinate fresh thoughts on mind blocks..
ReplyDeletenyc start smriti. well...since u hav mentioned quite a debatabl topic out here..lets take it one step further.....do you think that a couple..right after breaking up...can be friends again ??? Think bout it....cos on one side..u have a timespan wen they wer buddiez n not lovers....n therz anodr timespan dat sez they have broken up n so its bettr they stay outa toch 4 quite sm tym. Lets c how peopl react 2 this.
ReplyDeleteOh...tats gr8 starting motivation....keep going... - Div
ReplyDeleteGr8 start Smriti...!!!
ReplyDeleteNice first post, keep goin...!!! All the Best
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Nice start...All the best..
ReplyDeletefirst of all thank u guys for your encouragement.. it truly means a lot..and now to answer you saiyak.. the case u talkn about is very specific and it depends on the couple itself and their ability to handle the break up.. its not that once u hv broken up girl and boy cannot be friends .. they can be if they want.. for that they have to be mature and practical in life.. to me it doesnt make any sense to lose a friend which is precious to you just because your realtion with him didnt work out.. it all depends on the individuals in the end
ReplyDeletehey Smriti...u gotta a very burning issue here...ummm u knw v Indians can't just change the way v think coz so called "preconceived notions" have been fed to us ages ago.The question is not whether v can or cannot change our or our parent's thought process,the thing is v don't want to coz v r constantly threatened by our elders abt how the society will treat us (as if i give a damn)& the famous "LOG KYA KAHENGE business"...hahhahaaha...pure nonsense
ReplyDeleteThe bone of contention is our very own thought process...no matter where we go,what we wear,what language we speak,what we eat..we still harbour the old school of thought!!Our DESI VICHAAR can only transform into liberal views when we wish to change their direction!!
well smriti..i d rather make the issue more complex by repeatin a sayin made by one f my frndz wen she broke up wit her bf. It goes " When two people have broken up and even after that, they keep meeting often, either they are still in love or they were never in love". I ges, if u take a psychological stance, its a true fact that girls tend to be more emotional than guys and so its difficult for them to cope with the issue bang on target asap.
ReplyDeleteGood one smriti...India has a long way to go with respect to liberalisation of minds n thinking... n yes a girl n a boy definitely can be friends...the limits should be known n maintained by them...rest of the world doesnt matter..also in reply to the previous thread..its tough to maintain good friendship after a break up..both for the girl n the guy..cos it becomes awkward..n as rightly said...if they keep meeting after the break up normally as friends...probably they were never in love.
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