Expectations !!!

"Our limitations and success will be based, on our own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon"

What are your expectations from the future? Are you excited and thrilled about it or looking at it with apprehension and fear?For most people the future holds too many uncertainties and the fear of what might happens tends to overshadow the ray of light that represents the life they ultimately desire.We all live with an unconscious expectation of ourselves and our own lives. This expectation not only determines what we have in our lives but it also represents what we are willing to settle for. They are a very powerful emotion and the one that very few people ever learn to fully cultivate.

Each and everyone out here expects something or the other either from friends to help them when in need; family to support them no matter what; colleagues to be just in their work; job to give a high pay package; teachers to be fair while evaluating; govt to bring out a healthy budget for common man so on and so forth. This list is endless.

Expectations are strange things and something which is inherent in every relation. Initially we are flexible and ready to accept the person as it is. But as the relationship strengthens,so does the level of expectation. We start hoping a lot from the other person. It is such hopes, which when not met sometimes hampers the very basic foundation of a relation.

In friendship too we expect a lot from each other. Small small things begin to bother when done differently.As we move further in life we begin to meet new people, but this doesn't mean that the importance of the earlier ones are lost. The new people cannot replace the existence of the others. They are merely an extension of our database. But because we have expectations it keeps on nagging at us, in some small subconscious part of our mind. Sometimes it becomes so difficult that you really don't get to know whether to let go of them altogether or just hope they come true.

Though having expectations are nice as it helps us to come out of our existing circumstances to more desired ones, but as we say too much of everything is bad, the same holds true in this regard too. Each and every relation requires space and room for breathing. We should not bind them in our chains of expectations as they will rust and get tarnished to such a point that it will become irreparable.

Trust!!

I came, I trusted , I was betrayed..

This is a very general phenomena which most of us have faced at some point of our lives. If we look at the surface why trust anyone? The risk is too great and the pain is too high. So why take a chance? Certainly we all have asked such questions, especially after feeling the sharp blade of hurt in the violation of our trust. We all have walked down a dark street at night in an unfamiliar city with an uneasy feeling; each footfall behind us seems menacing and we quicken our steps. We tend to look over our shoulder time and again, hyper-alert for any danger lurking in the shadows. This is the same thing we experience with Trust when we walk down the unfamiliar path, meet new people, depend on others for certain things and not know what lay ahead in future.

Somewhere along the journey called Life we have experienced betrayal leading to us becoming a little jaded in our view to the world. Initially we trusted every one we knew but as our experience grew, the little voice inside us raised caution with every decision involving trust. Hence, we discovered no one is immune to the pain of mistrust. Like walking down the dark street has taught us to trust but also told us to glance to and fro looking for the possible signs of trouble. Similarly, we need to find trust amongst the various faces of betrayal.

We cannot expect to achieve closeness with people unless we are willing to allow others to understand what we are like on the inside and unless others trust us enough to grant the same privilege. Trust hold life together. Families, marriages, friendship and even economies are based on trust.

This trust - mistrust battle is an ongoing one and continues to rage within us. Something within us wants to trust and something within wants to distrust our trusting judgment. We don't want to be cynical every time, yet we are suspicious of everyone around. We should know when to trust and when not to. We have to learn to differentiate and not allow few acts of betrayal overpower the other acts of trust.